Until God ordains otherwise, a man ought to bear patiently whatever he cannot correct in himself and in others. Imitation of Christ by John Kempis

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Heal our HARDENED Hearts


What causes our hearts to harden?  I have written this blog because I hurt deeply for the wonded in our midst that cannot open to the wonderful love of God.  Their wounds are deep from;

Their sexual bounderies broken.

Abusive parents or spouse.

Betrayal of a good friend, spouse or religious.

We all have had hurts.  Some of us close our hearts and say no one will ever hurt me again.  We put up walls and become very angry.  Our hearts become closed and hardened.  Fear is all we know.  Leaving no place for Love, Peace, Joy, Hope or any of the wonderful feelings of the Holy Spirit.  It leaves no room for Jesus in our hearts.  We cannot love or feel loved because we are closed.  Jesus said , I knock at the door,  all we have to do is open it to have joy.  God is always trying to make it better and we cannot even see it.  We are blinded by anger.  God is making an effort to help, hoping that we open our hearts.  We cannot bring ourselves to trust in his merciful love for us.  We missed the fact that He gave his son to die for our sins.  We just expect the worst.  Make an effort to give up Bitternes, Anger, Dispare, and all the other fruits of the devil that you use to feeling daily.  Surrender to God and repent and turn around and recieve all the good God has waiting for you.


Hear O’Isreal the Lord God is lord alone. You  shall love the Lord your God with all your heard, with all y our soul, with all your mind and with all your strength.

We are suppose to focus only on God nothing else and LOVE with;

All your SOUL

This means no stain on your soul for too long.  Repent immediately go to confession often.  Remember to guard yourself from all evil.  Love everyone for God is in them.  Be totally alive.  Let the Holy Spirit bring all the fruits and gifts to remain with you. Spend silent time with God alone to worship and listen to his word.

All your HEART

No hardened heart but a open heart that nurtures without reservation.  Total giving of attention, time, and understanding.  Searching only for God alone.

All your MIND

Renew our mind with positive thinking.  Work hard on breaking old habits of negative thinking. Ignoring your imagination and trusting the word of God in making good judgements.  Looking at the fruits of the Holy Spirit to be your attitude.


Never give up on good.  It takes lots of strength to Love God at all times.  Turning to God and trusting in His Powerful protection, will give you all the strength you need.

METANOIA Greek for repentence

a change of mind

a change of heart

a change of life

We never outgrow the need for Metonoia

Matthew 4:10   “You shall worship the lord your God; and him alone shall your serve”

What or who in your life is getting in the way of a right relationship with God?

Lord Free us to Love you completely, Make us Holy in all our ways, Soften our hearts, Renew our minds with your truth, strengthen us by your Holy Spirit to serve you alone.  I ask this in Jesus Name. amen

Christian Friendship #2




JOHN 8: 1 – 11

2 At dawn he appeared again in the temple courts, where all the people gathered around him, and he sat down to teach them. 3 The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group 4 and said to Jesus, “Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. 5 In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?” 6 They were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him.

But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger. 7 When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.” 8 Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground.

9 At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there. 10 Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?”

11 “No one, sir,” she said.

“Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.”


To every wound that was afflicted upon, I will pour the sweet fragrance of my grace.

It astonishes me the invisible crosses we all carry. If we take them to Jesus, He will take them from us and He removes the scars. How can we be Jesus to those who are suffering?

In this scripture from John, the religious leaders were publicly showing Jesus this woman’s terrible sin of Adultery, and at the same time they were trying to catch Jesus, so they could accuse him. Jesus ignored them. Jesus knew what they were doing. This woman was being condemned to death for adultery. No one cared why she was sinning; it was the law and a good excuse to hurt two people. It is said that Jesus wrote the sins of the leaders in the sand. The scripture does not say this but it makes sense to me. The Religious leaders all left one by one. Jesus healed her by removing all condemnation and he did not accuse her either. She was told to sin no more. What a great example for us. Do not listen to condemnation and gossip, but show compassion and forgiveness with gentleness to the accused. Spend time with them and listen to the Holy Spirit on how to respond. The Holy Spirit will show you how to heal with words of forgiveness. This will heal the wound that is causing the sin.


John, Chapter 4: 1-42

1* Now when Jesus learned that the Pharisees had heard that Jesus was making and baptizing more disciples than John


(although Jesus himself was not baptizing, just his disciples),*


he left Judea and returned to Galilee.

The Samaritan Woman.


He had to* pass through Samaria.


So he came to a town of Samaria called Sychar,* near the plot of land that Jacob had given to his son Joseph.a


Jacob’s well was there. Jesus, tired from his journey, sat down there at the well. It was about noon.


A woman of Samaria came to draw water. Jesus said to her, “Give me a drink.”


His disciples had gone into the town to buy food.


* The Samaritan woman said to him, “How can you, a Jew, ask me, a Samaritan woman, for a drink?”b (For Jews use nothing in common with Samaritans.)


* Jesus answered and said to her,c “If you knew the gift of God and who is saying to you, ‘Give me a drink,’ you would have asked him and he would have given you living water.”


[The woman] said to him, “Sir,* you do not even have a bucket and the cistern is deep; where then can you get this living water?


Are you greater than our father Jacob, who gave us this cistern and drank from it himself with his children and his flocks?”d


Jesus answered and said to her, “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again;


but whoever drinks the water I shall give will never thirst; the water I shall give will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life.”e


The woman said to him, “Sir, give me this water, so that I may not be thirsty or have to keep coming here to draw water.”


Jesus said to her, “Go call your husband and come back.”


The woman answered and said to him, “I do not have a husband.” Jesus answered her, “You are right in saying, ‘I do not have a husband.’


For you have had five husbands, and the one you have now is not your husband. What you have said is true.”


The woman said to him, “Sir, I can see that you are a prophet.


Our ancestors worshiped on this mountain;* but you people say that the place to worship is in Jerusalem.”


Jesus said to her, “Believe me, woman, the hour is coming when you will worship the Father neither on this mountain nor in Jerusalem.


You people worship what you do not understand; we worship what we understand, because salvation is from the Jews.


But the hour is coming, and is now here, when true worshipers will worship the Father in Spirit and truth; and indeed the Father seeks such people to worship him.


God is Spirit, and those who worship him must worship in Spirit and truth.”


* The woman said to him, “I know that the Messiah is coming, the one called the Anointed; when he comes, he will tell us everything.”


Jesus said to her, “I am he,* the one who is speaking with you.”


At that moment his disciples returned, and were amazed that he was talking with a woman, but still no one said, “What are you looking for?” or “Why are you talking with her?”


The woman left her water jar and went into the town and said to the people,


“Come see a man who told me everything I have done. Could he possibly be the Messiah?”


They went out of the town and came to him.


Meanwhile, the disciples urged him, “Rabbi, eat.”


But he said to them, “I have food to eat of which you do not know.”


So the disciples said to one another, “Could someone have brought him something to eat?”


Jesus said to them, “My food is to do the will of the one who sent me and to finish his work.


Do you not say, ‘In four months* the harvest will be here’? I tell you, look up and see the fields ripe for the harvest.


The reaper is already* receiving his payment and gathering crops for eternal life, so that the sower and reaper can rejoice together.


For here the saying is verified that ‘One sows and another reaps.’


I sent you to reap what you have not worked for; others have done the work, and you are sharing the fruits of their work.”


Many of the Samaritans of that town began to believe in him because of the word of the woman* who testified, “He told me everything I have done.”


When the Samaritans came to him, they invited him to stay with them; and he stayed there two days.


Many more began to believe in him because of his word,


and they said to the woman, “We no longer believe because of your word; for we have heard for ourselves, and we know that this is truly the savior of the world.”

Hatred between Jews and Samaritans was fierce and long-standing. In some ways, it dated all the way back to the days of the patriarchs. Jacob (or Israel) had twelve sons, whose descendants became twelve tribes. Joseph, his favorite, was despised by the other brothers (Gen. 37:3-4), and they attempted to do away with him.

But God intervened and not only preserved Joseph’s life, but used him to preserve the lives of the entire clan. Before his death, Jacob gave Joseph a blessing in which he called him a “fruitful bough by a well” (Gen. 49:22). The blessing was fulfilled, as the territory allotted to the tribes of Joseph’s two sons, Ephraim (“doubly fruitful”) and Manasseh, was the fertile land that eventually became Samaria.

Later, Israel divided into two kingdoms. The northern kingdom, called Israel, established its capital first at Shechem, a revered site in Jewish history, and later at the hilltop city of Samaria.

In 722 B.C. Assyria conquered Israel and took most of its people into captivity. The invaders then brought in Gentile colonists “from Babylon, Cuthah, Ava, Hamath, and from Sepharvaim” (2 Kin. 17:24) to resettle the land. The foreigners brought with them their pagan idols, which the remaining Jews began to worship alongside the God of Israel (2 Kin. 17:29-41). Intermarriages also took place (Ezra 9:1-10:44;Neh. 13:23-28 ).

Meanwhile, the southern kingdom of Judah fell to Babylon in 600 B.C. Its people, too, were carried off into captivity. But 70 years later, a remnant of 43,000 was permitted to return and rebuild Jerusalem. The people who now inhabited the former northern kingdom—the Samaritans—vigorously opposed the repatriation and tried to undermine the attempt to reestablish the nation. For their part, the full-blooded, monotheistic Jews detested the mixed marriages and worship of their northern cousins. So walls of bitterness were erected on both sides and did nothing but harden for the next 550 years.

Jews had no dealings with the Samaritans. With whom do you have no dealings?

Notice in the first chapter that Jesus moved on because of gossip. Jesus knew that the Pharasees were building a case against him and he must move as quickly as possible to reach as many as possible. Gossip kills God’s plans.

Prejudice is always based on and handed down from generation to generation from myths that have no truth. Jesus came to show us how to be open to everyone even the downcast of society. The outcast and the most unlikely to be special to God, Jesus called into ministry. The woman at the well is a good example of Jesus reaching into her heart and healing her. When she was healed she went into the town and brought them all to see Jesus. Jesus stayed there for 2 days. That kind of acceptance delivers those who are persecuted. Persecution brings low self esteem and guilt. If we believe what people say about us, the devil will take us on a path to destruction. If we share with the wounded in our midst, how much God loves them, they will receive the life giving water Jesus has for them. They will then go forth and share the GOOD NEWS THAT GOD LOVES THEM.

Lets talk about a wound. Sometimes it is on the outside or inside. The outside wound can be seen and usually heals easily. The inside wounds are not able to be seen and can take years to heal or never heal. It causes pain in the beginning and then it heals but it leaves a scar. The deeper the wound the longer it takes to heal and the bigger the scar. It has to be covered and protected so that it does not get infected. It will take lots of care. It is the same with our being wounded in life by hurtful situations. Look at times when you have been hurt deeply. It is just like an open wound in your spirit. This must be tended and cared for carefully with lots of prayer and patience waiting for your healing. It is times like this that we must stay away from negative words, and negative influences that keep the wound from healing. Surround yourself with those who have healing words. To prevent a scar, read Gods word and frequent the Eucharist. The sacrament of reconciliation is where miracles and graces occur.

Who are the wounded in our midst and how can we be sensitive to their pain. After we are healed of our wound, God will send us someone with the very same wound. We must be sensitive and listening for clues when someone is talking. There are many walking wounded in the body of Christ who have been hurt by other believers, people who have been hit by the betrayal of a Christian. These are some of the things they say;

“She meant to say those words.” “ He meant to plot against me.” “ They meant to bring you down.” And “I will never be the same.” “I will suffer with this for the rest of my life.” “ I will not go back to any church.” “I will be possessed for the rest of my life by the pain.” And their pain becomes bitterness.

Do you know anyone like that? Or Is that your story? Are you the victim of a wound inflicted by someone you love? How do you respond to these people if you do not understand their bitterness? Do you reject them and never speak to them again? Matthew 12: 20 says “Gentle is the one who does not break a crushed reed or snuff a faltering wick.” Being sensitive that the wound is still not healed will help us to be careful with kind words and very sensitive to their pain. Henri Nouwen says, “Gentle is the one who is attentive to the strengths and weaknesses of the other and enjoys being together more than accomplishing something.” A gentle person treads lightly, listens carefully, looks tenderly and touches with reverence. A Gentle person knows that true growth requires nurture, not force. Let’s dress ourselves with gentleness. In our tough and often unbending world our gentleness can be a vivid reminder of the presence of God among us.

Who are the wounded in our midst?

They are the 50,000 soldiers who have come home from Iraq and Afghanistan to their families.
Families ruined by divorce.
Death in a family.
Victims of disaster
Those suffering illness
Victims of abortion
Victims of sex crimes
Those who suffer, neglected by parents or abused from drugs and alcohol abuse
Those who suffer poverty

These are just a few of the wounded in our midst. The world says they deserve it. Jesus paid a high price for them to be forgiven.

‘Father forgive them for they know not what they do.” We must keep this very same attitude. One way is by prayer and fasting for all the hurting in the world.

Our Lady and the Saints will help us in prayer.


Soldiers pray to Saint Michael or St George

Those in poverty St. Julia

The handicapped St. Angela

Widows and widowers St Bridget

Mental handicapped Saint Christina

Abuse victims Saint Monica

The lonely Saint Rita

Separated Spouses Saint Edward

Abortion St Gerard

Addiction St. Maximillian

The Blind St. Raphael the Archangel

Cancer St. Peregrine

If you do not know which Saint to pray to for a specific wound, Our Mother Mary is a wonderful advocate for all.

“Hail Mary full of grace the Lord is with you Blessed are you among women and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus

Holy Mary Mother of God pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death. Amen”

St. Francis de Sales writes about fasting below. It is a wealth of knowledge on different suggestions on fasting. The scripture says that some situations require us to fast and pray for a breakthrough for healing of serious sin.

– St. Francis de Sales

“Fast from judging others;
feast on Christ dwelling in them.
Fast from emphasis on differences;
feast on unity of life.
Fast from apparent darkness;
feast on the reality of Christ’s light.
Fast from thoughts of illness;
feast on the healing power of God.
Fast from discontent;
feast on gratitude.
Fast from anger;
feast on patience.
Fast from pessimism;
feast on hope.
Fast from worry;
feast on divine providence.
Fast from complaining;
feast on appreciation.
Fast from unrelenting pressures;
feast on unceasing prayer.
Fast from bitterness;
feast on forgiveness.
Fast from self-concern;
feast on compassion for others.
Fast from personal anxiety;
feast on eternal truth.
Fast from lethargy;
feast on enthusiasm and zeal.
Fast from facts that depress;
feast on truths that uplift.
Fast from gossip;
feast on purposeful silence.
Fast from problems that overwhelm;
feast on prayer that strengthens.
Fast from worry;
feast on divine providence.
Fast from complaining;
feast on appreciation.
“Let us spend this Lent as if it were our last, and we will make it well.” –
Saints are also a wealth of inspiration on how we should treat everyone. Many people followed Saint Francis and he was able to rebuild a failing Catholic Church. Here is what he has to say about our grave responsibility as Christians to our fellow man.

St.Francis of Assisi writes,

“We are servants of God. This is a big responsibility. It is not an excuse to speak abusive to nonbelievers or other Christians. This is wickedness. Servants be submissive to your masters with all respect, not only to those who are good and gentle, but also to those who are unreasonable.”

Padre Pio says,

“Divine goodness not only does not reject repentant souls. But even goes in search of obstinate ones.”

“Wow”, going in search of obstinate ones. Isn’t it easier to be with those who think the same as we do? In searching we must go out and look for the souls that are not quite what we look for in our friends. Yet we have been commissioned as Christians by our Lord Jesus Christ to go into all nations and spread the good news. That is that, God loves us so much that he gave his only Son to die for our sins. This is a big responsibility. We Christians are so needed now to respond to the Wounded in Our Midst with love. I know that you are thinking, where would I even start . We all have gifts from God. It is good for you to make a list of how you help those wounded in your life. You will see a recurring theme. This is your gift. In the morning when you wake up look into the mirror and say Jesus loves you and wants you to know how beautifully and wonderfully made your are by His Father, and how much he needs you here on earth. No one else can do what he made you to do. If you go forth you will receive divine help in ways you could never imagine.

Jesus says:

I feel your pain. My heart is filled with all your sorrow. I grieve with you. You are not alone. I miss nothing and know all the daily trials. I am waiting to help. Please don’t forget me. You need my strength and guidance to have victory in your life. Remember me and I will give you victory in every circumstance of your life. Come to my Fathers house to be renewed. Give me your time. Do not put off moving forward in the Holy Spirit. Do not fear. Make the first step and I will do the rest. I have sent my angels to prepare the way for you. Give me your all and strive for Holiness. Trust Me!


Jesus, I give you our deep hurts that you will make us strong. Remove the self-pity and give us courage and boldness. Strengthen us with your love. Show us that your friendship is all we need in our lives. When we are rejected remind us you were too. When we fall carrying our cross remind us you did too. Help us see that we are never alone. Then help us to see other pain and help them through it by our loving friendship, kind words, and prayer support and fasting to set them free. In Jesus name we pray.GetAttachment.aspx

Titus 2:7-8 “In everything set them an example by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity, seriousness and soundness of speech that cannot be condemned, so that those who oppose you may be ashamed because they have nothing bad to say about us.”


Victoria Soto, 27, first-grade teacher gunned down at Sandy Hook elementary. Soto had taught for five years and was known by students as silly and loving.

Wounded Teachers 

Did you know that most teachers get up at 5:30 am to get ready for their day of teaching? Yes a teacher does not have a 9 to 5 job. The good teacher plans an additional 4 hours approximately after work, because they have no time during the day. They probably make about 12.00 an hour once you round up the total hours spent daily. They do have a lunch break but usually it is spent with the students. In addition to that, they have playground duty, bus duty (rain or shine), science fairs, parent conferences, PTA, teacher meetings, and on and on. A really good teacher has to deal with jealous colleagues and a principles scrutiny.   You will not hear them complain because they have such a love for their students.


In the classroom, a teacher teaches much more than the subject. They help children get emotionally and intellectually prepared for life. Their communication skills have to be excellent for the student to understand. This must be done in a fun and engaging way. Some teachers have supplies, shoes, and clothes, purchased by the teacher for needy students, who cannot afford these things.    


A teacher has to be excellent in time management and control-misbehaved children like a referee and coach. Be ready to talk to angry parents, who think they know more than the teacher and mediate the truth like a therapist about their unruly child. Then take the disrespect and criticism that they probably could not do a real job, so they went into teaching. “ Those who can do, do; those who can’t teach.” Just some of the remarks that are dished out without thought.


The students are another story. They think they can lie to their parents and get away with poor work and behavior. Why would a parent think that the teacher wants a student to fail and disrupt the class?


We all need to get more understanding of the time and work that a good teacher does to prepare our youth for a better tomorrow. Stop listening to the 1% about Bad teacher publicity and support the 99% of teachers that are giving their all to make this a better place for us all.  

John 1: 11 he came to what was his own but his own people did not accept him.


It is terrible when you are not accepted. It causes you to doubt yourself for awhile and feel deeply hurt.  it is the feeling like when you are new somewhere and no one talks to you.  You feel invisible and completely not accepted.  Jesus was not accepted because he did not have status.  All the gossip about him being illegitimate must have been upsetting.  He was just a carpenter.  Somehow the goodness and wisdom he showed was not enough for acceptance. Religious jealousy added to the fuel of the religious leaders, who were looking for something to condemn Jesus.   Jesus presence stirred their fear,  because they were too comfortable in their laws, and they could not be open to the love Jesus was teaching.  They did not want to be made uncomfortable to a new loving way of thinking.  Do we judge people because of their beliefs or because they are from the South and you are from the North ?  Maybe it is because they are a Woman and you are a Man. Do you find yourself not accepting someone who has a lot of goodness and stands up for what is Godly?  It is so sad the things that cause us to completely close ourselves to Love.

John 1: 12  But those who did accept him he gave power to become children of God, to those who believe in his name.

So the next time you don’t feel accepted, remember that you are a child of a God and you will never be alone.  You are beautifully and wonderfully made by God.  All you must do is accept Jesus and believe in his name.

Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.

Words from our mouths may wound others deeply, into the depths of another persons heart and  may take years to heal.  Sometimes they never heal.  Teachers or parents who belittle a child’s intelligence, by calling them stupid or ignorant can cause them damage for years.  Those who knock another persons religion,  create divisions, and hatred , could cause wars.  Those who make fun of the elderly, special, or handicapped persons by calling them names,  appears to be the rule rather than the exception.

Managing our tongue  requires much  prayer and practice.  We cannot change others from making wicked statements.

James 3:8 ” But no human being can tame the tongue full of deadly poison.”  The stories of teens making fun, mentally and physically torturing them to point of suicide.

Proverbs 8: 21, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and who loves it will eat its fruits.”  These suicides cannot be healed, it is too late.  There are so many wounds for a family to grasp, that are confronting our youth today.  My prayers are with them all.

We have so many serious disconnects in our society.  Road Rage for example; Having to make sure you do not offend someone or they will verbally abuse or shoot you.    How did we get this wicked?  Our children feel free to be rude verbally to everyone, demonstrating no respect.  Parents that verbally and physically abuse their children can seriously damage their self image causing lower self esteem.  We all have witnessed it and we all have done it at one time or another.  We find it easier to say mean things than to complement someone else.  Lets encourage one another and praise God for all he has given us.

Matthew 12:36-37 “I tell you on the day of Judgement people will give account for every careless word they speak, for by your words you will be condemned.”

1 Peter 2: 17 Show proper respect to everyone, love the family of believers, fear God, honor the king


Respect seems to have been lost in our society.  We let old ladies stand while we sit.  We watch while others burn our Flag.  T.V. programs disrespect religion. A recent example of this on House of Cards where Kevin Spacey’s character, spit on a statue of the crucified Jesus.  We take more than our fair share at buffets.  We let our children be rude, unkind and do not discipline them. We leave church early.  We say mean things on the internet to others.   We have become animals who kill to keep from being killed.  It is the weak that seem to get the brunt of the disrespect.  The child in the school is bullied because he does not look great or does not fit in.  Schools do nothing for fear of being sued.  A Downs child filled with so much love and innocence, but looks different,  is a target for abuse of any kind.  Even the servants of God think they are above hurting other’s with disrespect.  They do not realize the big responsibility God has given them. It is not an excuse to speak abusive to believers or non believers or other christians.  This is wickedness.  Servants be submissive to your masters with due Respect. Not only to those who are good and gentle , but also to those who are unreasonable.  Let’s pray that respect becomes politically correct.

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