Until God ordains otherwise, a man ought to bear patiently whatever he cannot correct in himself and in others. Imitation of Christ by John Kempis

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Mark 14: 38 Watch and pray that you may not undergo the test. The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak.”


Our society has become a throw-a-way society.  Everyday we are sold by the media to make life easy and more comfortable for ourselves.

Media says to us that women need a career, so do anything you have to do to make that happen.  Even if you have to abort a baby to make it happen, its your body.  They do not tell you that you may suffer depression, death, or maybe never be able to have children in the future, just do it.

Evil on t.v. teaches our children that lies, sex before marriage, immodest dress, foul language, disrespect for authority, gluttony, drunkeness, rudeness and much more are many other sins are all ok.  Our children are being wounded by divorce, abandonment, stress, over indulgence, verbal abuse, physical abuse, under supervised, spiritually absent,  and it is all said to be acceptable.

Wounds from our decisions during youth can affect our whole life and our children’s lives.  Wounded children have much pain in adulthood.  Parents who do not want to grow up and only care about themselves, cause pain for their children.  Parenthood is a grave responsibility and no one seems to get it right. How can they with all the outside interference?  Scripture warns us about the sins of the flesh but there too many influences that contradict and confuse those without faith.  Yet that is all we see on the media because it sells.  Galatians 5: 19 – 21 “Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.”

Selfishly we spend our lives doing everything our own way.  Some of us finally realize we do not know what is best for us.  God is trying to show us what true happiness is, not take away our fun.  We choose to misconstrue this happiness as carefree fun living.

When we come to realize that believing Jesus is the answer to our problems.  We find out how important it is to surrender to God’s will in our lives, and even then we fall because of the flesh.  Trying to be a moral responsible adult saves us from many wounds.  No one is perfect, just forgiven.

ROMANS 12: 9-10 Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.


Inside the home many things happen, Birthdays, Holidays, everyday living, but the pain of a wounded spouse is usually suffered silently. The most pain is when one spouse dies and leaves the other to grieve their death. Most people do not want to hear how they are suffering because they do not understand. Nothing fills that open hole of grief, especially if they do not have a relationship with Jesus.

Divorce is a death of a marriage, that no one can understand except the two people living it. No one knows or cares how deeply they hurt. Their perception of the situation is hopelessness. If they do try to tell someone they trust, it is minimized as nothing or they say it is their fault. If they had only done this then it would never have happened. They still suffer even more from not being understood. There is a whole in their whole being that creates loneliness and resentment and even fear. If it is infidelity, their whole being has been betrayed and all they want are answers and when they get answers they still do not understand. Jealousy and confusion consumes them and they cannot see how to control the overwhelming emotions.

The Spouse that suffers in situations such as emotional abuse, sexual abuse, abandonment, work alcoholism, alcoholism, gambling, abortion are carrying shame that no one sees. They keep secrets and hide the embarrassment. How do you treat these people? Do you gossip about them? Do you pray for them? Do you try to find support for them?

 It is really hard to follow the commandments of the Bible and teaching ofJesus in regards to marriage. We as Christians need to be as much help as we can in this wicked world that teaches that there are no consequences for sin. Communication is so important, especially positive words that heal not harmful words the wound. Hopefully they do not shut the spouse out with not communication.  Even in good marriages spouses are in pain.  They suffer problems with children, money, making decisions and both agreeing.  When both do not agree they are suffering and can cause each other deep wounds with their words.  It is good for them to look at themselves and make a good confession to prevent wounding each other.  Without Jesus as our rock and the word of God as our guide, our pain remains and we make decisions that are not our best interest or our spouses. We remain wounded and continue in our pain.

1 Corinthians 13: 4-7

Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, [love] is not pompous, it is not inflated,

 it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury,

 it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth.

 It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.


  • Love never fails.





John 1: 11 he came to what was his own but his own people did not accept him.


It is terrible when you are not accepted. It causes you to doubt yourself for awhile and feel deeply hurt.  it is the feeling like when you are new somewhere and no one talks to you.  You feel invisible and completely not accepted.  Jesus was not accepted because he did not have status.  All the gossip about him being illegitimate must have been upsetting.  He was just a carpenter.  Somehow the goodness and wisdom he showed was not enough for acceptance. Religious jealousy added to the fuel of the religious leaders, who were looking for something to condemn Jesus.   Jesus presence stirred their fear,  because they were too comfortable in their laws, and they could not be open to the love Jesus was teaching.  They did not want to be made uncomfortable to a new loving way of thinking.  Do we judge people because of their beliefs or because they are from the South and you are from the North ?  Maybe it is because they are a Woman and you are a Man. Do you find yourself not accepting someone who has a lot of goodness and stands up for what is Godly?  It is so sad the things that cause us to completely close ourselves to Love.

John 1: 12  But those who did accept him he gave power to become children of God, to those who believe in his name.

So the next time you don’t feel accepted, remember that you are a child of a God and you will never be alone.  You are beautifully and wonderfully made by God.  All you must do is accept Jesus and believe in his name.

Ecclesiastes 9: 7 Go eat your bread with joy and drink your wine with a merry heart, because it is now that God favors your work.

Wounded by Alcohol and drugs.  The pain that comes from too much alcohol if continued can ruin a life and the lives of a family.  The media has glorified drugs and drunkenness as a real freedom without consequences.  If you ask the victims, it take years for their wounds to heal.  Society loves the movies but the same people will not hire a drunk because they are unreliable.  What a double standard  have when it comes to drunkenness.  The people that live with the alcohol abuser are helpless in changing the situation,  The pain that the spouse feels is frustration, fear, loneliness, helplessness, anger and there is no way out for them.  The sad part is if they act on these feelings the alcohol abuser just gets worse.  The children either see the alcohol abuser as distant and unreliable and they hate what it is  doing to them and the other parent.  So they begin to try to fix their situation or do the alcohol abuse themselves.  So much prayer is needed for these families and or individuals,   Not judgment, not gossip, not abandonment but prayer.  Our society needs to put the real face on this terrible problem of alcohol and drug abuse.  More needs to be talked about in our news, movies, t.v. talk shows of the cost to society that alcohol and drug abuse has harmed our society.  It has caused high divorce rates, child abuse, murders, young pregnancy, accidents, work loss, liver disease, cancer, rapes, alcohol poisoning in colleges, runaways, sexual disfunction, and so many other problems.  What is needed is more education of the harms not promotion of the fun and freedom being high brings.  There is nothing wrong with having a drink but over doing it can lead to a life with many problems.  Please when you see a family with these problems please pray them to admit the problem and for everyone of them to be healed.

Proverbs 29: 29-35

Who scream? Who shout?
Who have strife? Who have anxiety?
Who have wounds for nothing?
Who have bleary eyes?
Whoever linger long over wine,
whoever go around quaffing wine.j
Do not look on the wine when it is red,
when it sparkles in the cup.
It goes down smoothly,
but in the end it bites like a serpent,
and stings like an adder.
Your eyes behold strange sights,
and your heart utters incoherent things;
You are like one sleeping on the high seas,
sprawled at the top of the mast.
“They struck me, but it did not pain me;
they beat me, but I did not feel it.
When can I get up,
when can I go out and get more?”*

Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.

Words from our mouths may wound others deeply, into the depths of another persons heart and  may take years to heal.  Sometimes they never heal.  Teachers or parents who belittle a child’s intelligence, by calling them stupid or ignorant can cause them damage for years.  Those who knock another persons religion,  create divisions, and hatred , could cause wars.  Those who make fun of the elderly, special, or handicapped persons by calling them names,  appears to be the rule rather than the exception.

Managing our tongue  requires much  prayer and practice.  We cannot change others from making wicked statements.

James 3:8 ” But no human being can tame the tongue full of deadly poison.”  The stories of teens making fun, mentally and physically torturing them to point of suicide.

Proverbs 8: 21, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and who loves it will eat its fruits.”  These suicides cannot be healed, it is too late.  There are so many wounds for a family to grasp, that are confronting our youth today.  My prayers are with them all.

We have so many serious disconnects in our society.  Road Rage for example; Having to make sure you do not offend someone or they will verbally abuse or shoot you.    How did we get this wicked?  Our children feel free to be rude verbally to everyone, demonstrating no respect.  Parents that verbally and physically abuse their children can seriously damage their self image causing lower self esteem.  We all have witnessed it and we all have done it at one time or another.  We find it easier to say mean things than to complement someone else.  Lets encourage one another and praise God for all he has given us.

Matthew 12:36-37 “I tell you on the day of Judgement people will give account for every careless word they speak, for by your words you will be condemned.”

Happy those concerned for the lowly and poor; when misfortune strikes, the LORD delivers them. The LORD keeps and preserves them, makes them happy in the land, and does not betray them to their enemies. —Psalm 41:1-3et our tea

images-1 What has our country come to;  can you believe Child Trafficking ?  The breeding ground for traffickers is Foster Homes.  They love to seek these poor children who have low self esteem.  After 24 hours the runaway is targeted to become a sex slave.  How did we get this depraved?  Why are our children such victims?  Even children from good homes are victims of our Godless society.  Our T.V. and movies  promote sex, violence, vulgar actions, divorce, rebellion, Greed, murder, abortion. There are no consequences.  We have accepted the propaganda that you can do what ever you want to be  happy.  This is a lie because  only true happiness comes when we love God and follow his commandments.  God gave us these rules for our happiness and a better world.  My prayer is that we Christians become concerned enough to pray for deliverance from these evil influences that confront our Children. Fr. Rober Baron’s Lenten post today The Ten Commandments are divided into two sets. The first three deal with our relationship to God and how to worship him, and then, following from these commandments, comes a whole series of commandments concerning our relationship with other people. As we enter into the heart of Lent, reflecting on how we keep these commands can become the impetus to deepen our commitment to the Lord. “Honor your father and your mother.” What is the quality of your relationship with those who are nearest and dearest to you? If things are off there, they are probably off everywhere else. “You shall not kill.” Very few of us have actually killed another person, but what is the role that violence plays in your life? What is the quality of your temper? Have you effectively killed people, that is to say, rendered them lifeless? Do you enhance the lives of those around you, or are people less alive after they’ve been with you? “You shall not commit adultery.” The Bible is not obsessed with sex, but it does recognize the importance of our sexuality in the moral sphere. Much of our popular culture wants to teach us that sex is basically amoral, a matter, finally, of indifference. As long as you’re not hurting anyone, so says the culture, anything goes. But sex, like every other part of us, is meant to serve love, to become a gift. Is your sex life self-indulgent, simply for the sake of your pleasure? Do you lust after others, using them for your own sexual satisfaction? Do you practice forms of sex that are simply perverse? “You shall not steal.” Do you steal other’s property, even very small things like little amounts of money? Do you steal someone’s good name and reputation through gossip? “You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.” What is the quality of your speech? How much time do you spend inveighing against your neighbor, even making things up to make him look bad? “You shall not covet your neighbor’s house or wife.” The philosopher René Girard suggests that we imitate other people’s desires, wanting things simply because other people want them. This can easily lead to conflict and dysfunction. What is it that you are coveting in your life, especially that which others have or desire? This Lent, suppose that Jesus has made a whip of cords, knotted with the Ten Commandments. What would he clear out of you?

1 Peter 2: 17 Show proper respect to everyone, love the family of believers, fear God, honor the king


Respect seems to have been lost in our society.  We let old ladies stand while we sit.  We watch while others burn our Flag.  T.V. programs disrespect religion. A recent example of this on House of Cards where Kevin Spacey’s character, spit on a statue of the crucified Jesus.  We take more than our fair share at buffets.  We let our children be rude, unkind and do not discipline them. We leave church early.  We say mean things on the internet to others.   We have become animals who kill to keep from being killed.  It is the weak that seem to get the brunt of the disrespect.  The child in the school is bullied because he does not look great or does not fit in.  Schools do nothing for fear of being sued.  A Downs child filled with so much love and innocence, but looks different,  is a target for abuse of any kind.  Even the servants of God think they are above hurting other’s with disrespect.  They do not realize the big responsibility God has given them. It is not an excuse to speak abusive to believers or non believers or other christians.  This is wickedness.  Servants be submissive to your masters with due Respect. Not only to those who are good and gentle , but also to those who are unreasonable.  Let’s pray that respect becomes politically correct.

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