Until God ordains otherwise, a man ought to bear patiently whatever he cannot correct in himself and in others. Imitation of Christ by John Kempis

Christian Friendship #2


This is an amazing book on Friendship please read and use it in your groups.

Christian Friends help you find your smile, your hope, your courage, and encourage you to be the best person you can be. They guide you by sharing their spirituality. One of our co-hosts texted me music that she would listen to and meditate intently bringing her close to God the father. Jane Ann did not know that I had gone to a Spiritual director the day before and was encouraged by her to meditate prior to prayer maybe using music. The text came in as I was beginning my prayer time. Obviously the Holy Spirit guided Jane Ann to share the songs with me. I immediately knew that I was to use this to come close to the Father the Son and the Holy Spirit. There were beautiful messages from all three of the songs for me and I was totally obsorbed by the power of God.

These warriors gave me encouragement in true Spiritual Warfare

St. Patricks Day was a sad day. Dick McSheehy’s birthday we would celebrate every year. Dick passed away 3 years ago. His wife Helene and Dick were leaders of the Charismatic prayer meeting for years. I called Helene because I knew it was a sorrowful day for her. Helene is 84 and said to me that she prayed for someone to call her because she was so lonely. Helene is in good health but hears from none of the Christian community. How sad that she hears from no one. We had a great conversation and laughed. We have had such a good friendship through out the years. When my husband was out of work they put groceries in my fridge. I was able to return the favor when the same thing happened to them. We prayed for each other. I know all about her family and pray for them like my own family.
Christian Friendship is always present, available and loving unconditionally.
It is always being sensitive to their pains and woundedness to help them carry the cross in their lives.
If you are in your church and you have many friends and community in your church please make room for the new comers. Form a group that visits those confined to their homes. Get to know everyone. There is no room for cliques.

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Give me your all.  Everything is going to fall into place.  Now is a time of healing.  Now is the time to repent!  I understand and will listen.  Now is the time of healing.  Unite with all.  Help all.  EWnjoy everyones different for a purpose.  His purpose.  Do not criticize or judge.  Trust!  Give me your all.  Hope in all things.  God works all things out for good for those who love him.  Tell everyone about God’s unconditional love for them.  Pray for world peace.  I am coming soon


some of the things that harm our friendships is our lack of understanding of a persons situation.  We are all different.  We have been raised with rules of our family and we have a hard time accepting other points of view.  God rejoices in how he made us all different.  We are here to complete a job he has planned for our lives.  We must pray to see others and our uniqueness and figure out God’s plan for us in our world.

Christian Friendships must be formed through prayer for one another.  We must pray for every aspect of our lives, our families, our work, our church, finances and every other petition that we share with each other.  This forms a relationship with God at the center.

1 Corinthians 1: 10

I urge you, brothers in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that all of you agree in what you say, and that you be united in The same mind and in the same purpose.  And that htere be no divisions amoung you.

There is no place for Gossip, comparison, competition, jealousy or any other scheme of the devil to destroy the friendship.

When in the process of forming a friendship; BE PATIENT












It is good to keep all this in mind when the person has a bad temper or is not having a good day.  We must be forgiving and not judgemental.  The flesh and the tongue ruins many friendships.

JEALOUSY  in the scripture below Joseph was a favorite of his father and his brothers were jealous.  He has dreams and was excited to share with his brothers.  They were so jealous that they almost killed him.  How sad how jealousy ruins family live and Church communities.

Genesis 38: 5-36

This is the story of the family of Jacob.* When Joseph was seventeen years old, he was tending the flocks with his brothers; he was an assistant to the sons of his father’s wives Bilhah and Zilpah, and Joseph brought their father bad reports about them.


Israel loved Joseph best of all his sons, for he was the child of his old age; and he had made him a long ornamented tunic.*


When his brothers saw that their father loved him best of all his brothers, they hated him so much that they could not say a kind word to him.


* Once Joseph had a dream, and when he told his brothers, they hated him even more.a


He said to them, “Listen to this dream I had.


There we were, binding sheaves in the field, when suddenly my sheaf rose to an upright position, and your sheaves formed a ring around my sheaf and bowed down to it.”


His brothers said to him, “Are you really going to make yourself king over us? Will you rule over us?” So they hated him all the more because of his dreams and his reports.b


Then he had another dream, and told it to his brothers. “Look, I had another dream,” he said; “this time, the sun and the moon and eleven stars were bowing down to me.”


When he told it to his father and his brothers, his father reproved him and asked, “What is the meaning of this dream of yours? Can it be that I and your mother and your brothers are to come and bow to the ground before you?”


So his brothers were furious at him but his father kept the matter in mind.


One day, when his brothers had gone to pasture their father’s flocks at Shechem,


Israel said to Joseph, “Are your brothers not tending our flocks at Shechem? Come and I will send you to them.” “I am ready,” Joseph answered.


“Go then,” he replied; “see if all is well with your brothers and the flocks, and bring back word.” So he sent him off from the valley of Hebron. When Joseph reached Shechem,


a man came upon him as he was wandering about in the fields. “What are you looking for?” the man asked him.


“I am looking for my brothers,” he answered. “Please tell me where they are tending the flocks.”


The man told him, “They have moved on from here; in fact, I heard them say, ‘Let us go on to Dothan.’” So Joseph went after his brothers and found them in Dothan.


They saw him from a distance, and before he reached them, they plotted to kill him.


They said to one another: “Here comes that dreamer!


Come now, let us kill him and throw him into one of the cisterns here; we could say that a wild beast devoured him. We will see then what comes of his dreams.”c


* But when Reuben heard this, he tried to save him from their hands, saying: “We must not take his life.”


Then Reuben said, “Do not shed blood! Throw him into this cistern in the wilderness; but do not lay a hand on him.” His purpose was to save him from their hands and restore him to his father.d


So when Joseph came up to his brothers, they stripped him of his tunic, the long ornamented tunic he had on;


then they took him and threw him into the cistern. The cistern was empty; there was no water in it.


Then they sat down to eat. Looking up, they saw a caravan of Ishmaelites coming from Gilead, their camels laden with gum, balm, and resin to be taken down to Egypt.e


Judah said to his brothers: “What is to be gained by killing our brother and concealing his blood?f


Come, let us sell him to these Ishmaelites, instead of doing away with him ourselves. After all, he is our brother, our own flesh.” His brothers agreed.


Midianite traders passed by, and they pulled Joseph up out of the cistern. They sold Joseph for twenty pieces of silver* to the Ishmaelites, who took him to Egypt.g


When Reuben went back to the cistern and saw that Joseph was not in it, he tore his garments,*


and returning to his brothers, he exclaimed: “The boy is gone! And I—where can I turn?”


They took Joseph’s tunic, and after slaughtering a goat, dipped the tunic in its blood.


Then they sent someone to bring the long ornamented tunic to their father, with the message: “We found this. See whether it is your son’s tunic or not.”


He recognized it and exclaimed: “My son’s tunic! A wild beast has devoured him! Joseph has been torn to pieces!”h


Then Jacob tore his garments, put sackcloth on his loins, and mourned his son many days.


Though his sons and daughters tried to console him, he refused all consolation, saying, “No, I will go down mourning to my son in Sheol.”* Thus did his father weep for him.i


The Midianites, meanwhile, sold Joseph in Egypt to Potiphar, an official of Pharaoh and his chief steward.



Perfect love of God means complete surrender of our will with Gods.


Intense love does not measure it just gives.

1 Corinthians 1: 10

I urge you, brothers in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that all of you agree in what you say, and that you be united in The same mind and in the same purpose.  And that htere be no divisions amoung you.

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Saint Augustine
“If you wish to rise begin decending.”
Surrender yourself, to pray, breath all the world out and breath in the Breath of Jesus.
When you pray to me, I listen and all of heaven listens. God who created you hangs on every word. The Saints begin to pray also. You are not alone in your prayer. Perfect love casts our all fear. Enjoy the freedom of sharing all your desires and thoughts without condemnation.

Why I write prayers

For quite sometime I have noticed that I should be more detailed in my prayer so I began to write out my prayers. As I am getting older I do not want to forget the details. The names of those who ask me to pray. When I feel things are going to go wrong I pray ahead of time to prevent it from happening.
Good example Hurricaine last summer did not hit Tampa and it looked like a terrible storm that would wipe the whole west coast off the map. It just desolved!!!

Our prayers

Our prayers creat a beautiful work of life changing love in others. It is a healing that cannot be explained. Prayer is a sacrifice that gives us super natural gifts and others perfect gifts. The Holy Spirit flows from us to God and back to those we pray for causing love to overflow. The prayer draws the Angels to us. St Teresa said “it is great that God lets us borrow His own love.” All of this helps us to become more loving. We win and the world is a better place to live.

Alfred Loyd Teanyson
“More things are wrought by prayer than this world dreams of.

This prayer was created 8 months before my daughter had her thyroid removed and I was so glad that the Holy Spirit ptomted me to write it and pray everyday. Even though she had this operation, it would have not been found without a small accident that the X-ray revealed nodules on her thyroid. After waiting they determined that the nodules had grown too much and they removed the thyroid. It could have turned into cancer.


Holy Trinity, I am grateful for your guidance and Loving Hope for the whole world to be completely healed.
God thank you for giving us your Son Jesus to take away our sins with such pure forgiveness.
Jesus, thank you for setting us free.  Thank you Jesus for your many Graces that restores and heals our Soul.

Loving Father, touch me now with your healing touch. Send your healing angels to me.  I know that your will is for me to be completely healed body, mind, soul and Spirit.  Pour your blood Jesus over my whole body, over my Head to renew my mind, over my eyes that I may see only you, over my ears to hear your words only.  Over my mouth that only kindness and Your words will come out of my mouth, Over my entire body even to the souls of my feet that I may bring only good news to this broken world.
In the name of Jesus I cast out anything that you did not put in me.  Root out all unhealthy and abnormal cells and multiply my healthy cells.  Destroy all tumors, growths and cancers.  Pour your blood through my veins to open and heal my whole body. Heal my thyroid and metabolism.  Help me to eat correctly and not harm my stomach and bowels. Renew my heart with healing and holiness.  Cleanse my liver, gallbladder and pancreas and heal all the damaged areas. Strengthen and restore my bones, remove all plaque and arthritis.  Build and heal my muscles to better run the race for your glory.  Remove all infection and cleanse all inflammation by your precious blood.  Strengthen and straighten my spine and nerves to work perfectly.  Renew my mind and cure any mental illness.  Restore what sin and unforgiveness has caused illness in my body, mind, soul and spirit. Replenish my strength with your Joy.
Touch my mind and emotions even in the darkest places that I have forgotten and fill me with your light. Show me all that I need to repent of and give me the courage to make a good confession. Saturate me with your love and fill me with your Holy Spirit to cleanse my mind body and soul to purify me for your work, so that I may be successful in all your works.
I ask all this in you’re precious name Jesus.

A personal relationship keeps in touch.  Prayer is a personal relationship with the true and living God…. “Prayer is raising of ones mind and heart to God or requesting of good things from God”  Catechism of the Catholic Church, 2558-2559

I have made many friends through praying for them and them praying for me.  It never fails if I am praying for someone that they call me.  I conclude from this that prayer unites us with God and each other.  In the book “The friendship project” through friendship they became prayer partners while running and many other times in thier time together.  So it says that we do not have to wait for the appropriate time that we can do it in our daily chores.

While praying and listening in the Adoration Chapel I heard this message.



I am here!  Iam in your heart, waiting to help.  I love you and want to give you all graces.  Open your hardened hearts.  surrender everything this is blocking my love for you.  I care deeply for you.  i care deeply and mourne fo ryur return to me.  i grieve when you grieve.  it is my greatest desire to bless your life.  Listen carefully to my word and live it in your daily life.  I am here!

Jesus gave us the greatest prayer time 🙏The MASS it fills us with many graces to continue.

If we dedicate more time to prayer, our hearts will reveal the lies with which we deceive ourselves, and we will find true consolation in God. Pope Francis

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Pope Francis

Get rid of the lazy addiction to evil – “[Lent] is a ‘powerful’ season, a turning point that can foster change and conversion in each of us. We all need to improve, to change for the better. Lent helps us and thus we leave behind old habits and the lazy addiction to the evil that deceives and ensnares us.” – General Audience, March 5, 2014

Do something that hurts – “Lent is a fitting time for self-denial; we would do well to ask ourselves what we can give up in order to help and enrich others by our own poverty. Let us not forget that real poverty hurts: no self-denial is real without this dimension of penance. I distrust a charity that costs nothing and does not hurt.” – Lenten Message, 2014

Don’t remain indifferent – “Indifference to our neighbor and to God also represents a real temptation for us Christians. Each year during Lent we need to hear once more the voice of the prophets who cry out and trouble our conscience. God is not indifferent to our world; he so loves it that he gave his Son for our salvation.” –Lenten Message, 2015

Pray: Make our hearts like yours! – “During this Lent, then, brothers and sisters, let us all ask the Lord: ‘Fac cor nostrum secundum cor tuum’: Make our hearts like yours (Litany of the Sacred Heart of Jesus). In this way we will receive a heart which is firm and merciful, attentive and generous, a heart which is not closed, indifferent or prey to the globalization of indifference.” – Lenten Message, 2015

Take part in the sacraments – “Lent is a favorable time for letting Christ serve us so that we in turn may become more like him. This happens whenever we hear the word of God and receive the sacraments, especially the Eucharist. There we become what we receive: the Body of Christ.” – Lenten Message, 2015

Prayer – “In the face of so many wounds that hurt us and could harden our hearts, we are called to dive into the sea of prayer, which is the sea of God’s boundless love, to taste his tenderness. Lent is a time of prayer, of more intense prayer, more prolonged, more assiduous, more able to take on the needs of the brethren; intercessory prayer, to intercede before God for the many situations of poverty and suffering.” – Homily, March 5, 2014

Fasting – “We must be careful not to practice a formal fast, or one which in truth ‘satisfies’ us because it makes us feel good about ourselves. Fasting makes sense if it questions our security, and if it also leads to some benefit for others, if it helps us to cultivate the style of the Good Samaritan, who bends down to his brother in need and takes care of him.” – Homily, March 5, 2014

Almsgiving – “Today gratuitousness is often not part of daily life where everything is bought and sold. Everything is calculated and measured. Almsgiving helps us to experience giving freely, which leads to freedom from the obsession of possessing, from the fear of losing what we have, from the sadness of one who does not wish to share his wealth with others.” – Homily, March 5, 2014

Help the Poor – “In the poor and outcast we see Christ’s face; by loving and helping the poor, we love and serve Christ. Our efforts are also directed to ending violations of human dignity, discrimination and abuse in the world, for these are so often the cause of destitution. When power, luxury and money become idols, they take priority over the need for a fair distribution of wealth. Our consciences thus need to be converted to justice, equality, simplicity and sharing.” – Lenten Message, 2014

Evangelize – “The Lord asks us to be joyous heralds of this message of mercy and hope! It is thrilling to experience the joy of spreading this good news, sharing the treasure entrusted to us, consoling broken hearts and offering hope to our brothers and sisters experiencing darkness.” – Lenten Message, 2014



The poem below was written by me and I love to sign it J.C. When the Holy Spirit helps me write my deepest thoughts completely .  I wrote this in 5 minutes , while riding in a car after being persecuted by Christian Leaders for a long time.  Jesus said Father forgive them they for they know not what they do.  I however Have no problem forgiving but I do not know how to let go of the hurt and emotions.  This poem healed me completely while writing it, because it helped me express how I feel, which was so hard for me to verbalize.  It released me from all my hurt of not being able to express my feelings to those who do not care about me.  I do not understand the attitude of leaders, that we are disposable, even though we do our best for them.  It is hard when you see others favored and you are not understood.  This poem inspired me to write the Blog Wounded In Our Midst because I know that I am not alone.



Please accept me
Hear my plea

Be sensitive and realize how I have been abused
By your being silent my justice was refused

Give me the benefit of the doubt
Don’t call me out

If I am not your favorite one
Try hard not to shun

Don’t listen to gossip that is negative
Remember it is a lie and Pray to be positive

Care about ALL those in the pews
Even if they do not share your views

Don’t Judge me when I tell you all
Remember your judgmental attitude can cause me to fall

Think about what you say to all
Never forget we trusted you because of your call

When you fear
Always remember the devil is near

If you are really smart
Do not use it to tear me apart

If you forget your call
My unsaved family will see it all

When you are tired, take a rest
Don’t allow satan to put you to the test

Your pride will take you down
Repent and you will receive your crown

If you say mean things in jest
It will take us longer to be our best

If you think this is your profession
Go straight to confession

If you love and encourage us to be our best
Jesus is very able to do the rest

Most important give us the benefit of the doubt
Then many will come back to praise and shout

Don’t believe all the polls and lose faith, it’s a lie
The truth is the fruits and gifts of the Holy Spirit is what you should try

Many are lost because of the lie. Your call is to bring them back home
It is time to be obedient and listen to the Pope in Rome

Be a Godly man and forget worldly things
All you need is what the Holy Spirit brings

We do not need a king to lord it over us and teach
All we need is a simple man who we can always reach

God is not impressed with your knowledge and your speech
What He wants is the message of His love for us that you preach

After all is said and done and if nothing amounts
The love of Jesus that you shared is all that counts

You are not a one man show
If God does not give you help then let it go.

If you are really grateful for our help let us know
Being taken for granted is a terrible crushing blow

You are loved by so many in so many ways
Stop looking and searching to always get away

Know that there is a battle to be won
You and God will lead us to victory, with his only Son

Don’t be tempted by womanly wiles
Mary will protect you if you spend time with her for a while

In conclusion know that everything you do is forgiven
Because Jesus Christ your savior has risen!  J.C.


Visitors Wounded at Church

How many times have you been to new church gatherings and ignored? Not one person talked to you. Perhaps this occurred on more than one occasion. There is no place for this rudeness in a Christian church.
So let’s discuss some of the situations that many encounter before deciding not to return to the church. When you come for the first time to a service and everyone there knows the procedure except for you, like special books that are up front that you use, and no one informs you it will be needed. It is humiliating to stand there with no book, while all are reading together.
When an entrance is changed and you do not know where to go, you feel excluded. Especially if someone saw you go in the wrong entrance and did not tell you.
They announce that coffee and donuts are in the hall and you go thinking that this is an opportunity to meet everyone, and no one talks to you. They stay in their little clicks and ignore everyone else. If you strike up a conversation and they give you a sarcastic comment and then ignore you. You think that at coffee and donuts you will be able to meet the Religious leader and they are not there to greet you.
There is no excuse for apathy and selfishness for Christian leaders and shepherds.
Even worse, you are ignored and you still volunteer anyway, and someone else takes credit for your work.
Where is the gratitude, when you volunteer many hours of your time with no thank you. Better yet the message is to be humble and don’t take any of my time.
Some of these practices have been adopted and repeated for so long it has become the norm. The rules of obedience have been used to persecute for far too long. The rules of the Pharisee’s put Jesus on the cross. The Pharisee’s had their favorites and all others were judged and criticized. Religious leaders should not have favorites because it hurts the Body of Christ.
Every situation that causes exclusion hurts the Body of Christ. All are watching Christians and we are not giving them a good example of what the scripture teaches. It is so important to listen to what a new person is saying and not show them that you know more than them. Just because you were there first does not give you the right to lord it over newcomers. It causes them to feel like they are trying out for a country club and have to be approved. In this world where everyone has to spend so much time surviving , it is easier to move on and not return to church.
The church is supposed to be a place that elevates you from the world to a place of unconditional love. A place where you can go and learn about Jesus through the actions of loving Christians, and you are inspired to follow their good example. A healing place that you that builds you up, and has patience when you are in need. When you receive a message that you are taking up too much time or not important enough, it hurts. Who wants to be treated that way in the world no less in a place of God. When it happens in church it sends a message that you are somehow inferior and that you are not welcome. Either way it is a good part of why numbers are dwindling. Christian leaders need to repent and get rid of fear!

The solution is really simple. Use the Bulletin to remind everyone on appropriate ways to welcome and embrace newcomers. Use scripture;

“For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? And if you greet only your brothers, what more are you doing than others? Do not even the Gentiles do the same?” Matthew 5:46-48

“When the crowds learned it, they followed him, and he welcomed them and spoke to them of the kingdom of God and cured those who had need of healing.” Luke 9:11

“When they came to Jerusalem, they were welcomed by the church and the apostles and the elders, and they declared all that God had done with them.” Acts 15:4

“When they came to Jerusalem, they were welcomed by the church and the apostles and the elders, and they declared all that God had done with them.” Acts 15:4

“Therefore welcome one another as Christ has welcomed you, for the glory of God.” Romans 15:7

These scriptures shows a Christian community without fear but showing perfect love. We as a church need. to take the advice of scripture an live it everyday to the best of our ability with God’s help. We need reminding not to love just our friends but everyone, it says that Jesus welcomed and then healed and we should do the same, the church should declare all that God has done for them and do it all for Gods Glory. We should go out into the world and bring them back to the church. The beginning church had signs and wonders that brought everyone to them. We need to do the same. Not be afraid of the Holy Spirit but open to it.

If you do not make the people feel at home in the church they will not make it their home.

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